February 2021: Self Care

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A message from the WSCA Executive Director

Dear WSCA members,

Happy National School Counseling Week!  It is so exciting to hear all the amazing programs, services and supports that counselors are providing to students across the state as you advocate for the school counseling profession. WSCA is looking forward to also CELEBRATING you this week. We see you, we hear you, and we appreciate all you do in your school communities.  

The theme for this month’s newsletter is self-care.  This is a monthly theme we have every year for WSCAlink and it seems like every year I publicly vow that I will try to do better (almost like the New Years’ resolutions that I finally stopped doing).  Sarah Flier, 2020 WSCA School Counselor of the Year, and WSCA Director of Data said something to me recently that keeps running through my head, “you also stress that we take care of ourselves – hope you are taking care of you too!”.  I am going to own that I am horrible at this.  There is always something that needs support and attention.  When you work from home and your teenage kids say they never see you, it is sending a clear message that something needs to change.  

In reflecting on where I need to start, the first step for me is going to be around setting some personal and professional boundaries so work doesn’t continue to edge its way into my personal time. I have not taken any vacation days off from WSCA since December 2019 so I am working on scheduling those dates, no longer working on my paid holidays, minimizing evening/weekend meetings, and putting this all on my calendar so that my personal time is prioritized.  With the rapid move to more and more virtual communications, it is easy to have work seep into other areas of our lives.  If this is happening to you, please join me in holding this space for your personal and family time.  

In the December 2018 WSCAlink my message was about self-care and the following statement holds true for me today, especially in the world of COVID. 

I learned about the theory of Kaizen from the Student Success Skills curriculum.  Kaizen is the process of having students make super small little changes in their lives and practice them on a daily basis.  When we set goals that are too big, we become overwhelmed, and our chances of achieving them greatly diminish.  Using the Kaizen small steps to change means committing to a small goal you know you can practice and achieve every day. With a focus on consistent improvements in your life, every day, no matter how small the step you take to be a better you than you were yesterday.

I would encourage all counselors looking to slow their world down to consider using the Kaizen model.  Join me this year in taking small steps on a daily basis.  If you are looking for some inspiration on small steps, Psychology Today has a great blog post on ten ideas that may have one small step for you to take today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/skinny-revisited/201805/self-care-101 .

I hope you will join me in celebrating you this week by taking those small steps, whatever they may be, to prioritize your self-care journey.  We look forward to seeing you at this week’s fun events and celebrations in hopes they bring joy and appreciation for all you do!

~Stacy

A message from the WSCA Board of Directors

The Wisconsin School Counseling Association offers professional development opportunities for its members to become more knowledgeable about what is happening in the school counseling profession throughout the state of Wisconsin and on a National level as well as strengthening our leadership skills through the Leadership Academy, Director of Operations, and the Board of Directors. As a member of the first cohort of the Leadership Academy in 2018, we learned about Policy Governance and attended a Board of Directors and Director of Operations meeting as well as participating in the Wisconsin School Counselor Associations Summer Academy and the annual WSCA Conference. We participated in a book study, Strengths Based Leadership: Great Leaders, Teams, and Why People Follow by Tom Rath where I learned that my strengths are responsibility, arranger, input, relator, and intellection. This professional development opportunity encouraged me to get to know myself more, enabled me to reflect on my practice, helped me to maximize my productivity, and meet incredible school counselors from across Wisconsin.

The valuable professional development I experienced during Leadership Academy guided me to apply for the Wisconsin School Counselor Associations Board of Directors. I was elected and I am serving a three-year term currently. After 32 years as a career professional in the field of education, I am blessed to say that the school counselors involved with the WSCA association have given me the opportunity to grow and learn both personally and professionally, connect with school counseling colleagues from across Wisconsin, and develop leadership skills. As a Board member and a member of the Nominations and Elections committee, we recently had the privilege of reviewing eight applications for the three Board of Directors positions that need to be filled. Eight candidates with well over 80 years of school counseling experience submitted exceptional applications for a seat as a WSCA Board of Directors. Applicants had significant leadership experiences and impressive resumes. The Board of Directors has prioritized the key leadership skills as communication, collaboration, perspective taking, flexibility, thoughtful/insightful and the ability to have tough conversations. The values that the Board of Directors is seeking in application candidates are professionalism, willingness to learn, creative/innovative, integrity/honesty, and accountability.

As we continue to navigate the virtual educational setting in 2021 and we explore methods to receive support, self-care, and continued growth and development, I would encourage all WSCA members to utilize the WSCA Online Learning Program, a source for live and on-demand learning. WSCA Online Learning Program  I would like to take this moment to THANK the WSCA organization for providing school counselors, myself included, the diverse opportunities to evolve within the school counseling profession.  Education is a business – the growth business. It cultivates the growth of our learners, translates the growth of new knowledge, and builds professional growth.” ~Heidi Hayes Jacobs

Take Care & Be Well, Donna Okray

Feature Article – Engaging in Self Care and Personal Reflection: Applying Your Counseling Skills to Yourself

Engaging in Self Care and Personal Reflection: Applying Your Counseling Skills to Yourself
Victoria Claas
Columbus Middle School, Columbus School District

It’s been a challenging year, and we’re coming up on one year since the pandemic shut down schools. Reflect on where you were last March, how much you’ve learned since then, and how innovative and adaptive we’ve become. Give yourself praise for your commitment in trying to engage all students! Check in with yourself; are you feeling exhausted and overwhelmed? Is the second half of the school year seeming manageable?

As school counselors, we worry about our students’ well-being, abilities to cope, their anxiety and depression, their family dynamics, and their focus and engagement in school. We are asking students about sleep habits, screen time, exercise, hydration, and diet. We help students by setting goals; creating schedules; teaching self awareness; asking about social connections; identifying emotions; and exploring skills, strengths, and future aspirations.

As school counselors, we are helpers, and we should celebrate this strength! We are always trying to support others. Then, I ask, how will you transform your relationship with yourself this year? As we continue to help others, we also have to reflect on what we are doing for ourselves.

What are your goals for yourself? As I learned from Breathe for Change, an organization that “empowers educators to enhance well-being in their lives, classrooms, and school communities,” you can set intentions for your own mental, physical, social, and emotional well-being. (You can engage in their free events, such as yoga, mindfulness, and breathing practices.) Write down the intentions you set for your well-being. Many of us are aware of various techniques including establishing a gratitude practice, using positive affirmations, being in nature, exercising daily, eating healthy foods, and drinking water. Have you considered setting boundaries with work and where our thoughts drift to? Are you willing to schedule your goals on your calendar? Trying to recharge each weekend, can help us rejuvenate and become more student-centered.

As I am reading Motivational Interviewing for School Counselors by Reagan North, I wonder how many of the practices we can apply to ourselves. Do you engage in empathy toward yourself and find strengths? Are you noticing what you accomplished in a day, or are you just focused on what you didn’t do? I encourage you to reflect with empathy toward yourself, and continue practicing motivational interviewing skills for yourself. If you set goals in 2021, how are you achieving these goals? It can take 21 days to form a new habit. As you try to achieve personal well-being, are you using change talk or sustain talk; are you willing to change? Are you willing to create a plan to achieve your goals? On a scale of 1 to 10, how confident are you in making this change? What are the pros and cons? What would allow you to feel confident in making this change? To be our best selves, we also need to apply our counseling strategies to our own well-being. Take breaks, re-charge, and find some strategies that allow you to meet your goals and feel renewed.

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